As a mom, carving out moments of intimacy can often feel like a luxury — one that can be difficult to prioritize or achieve when you have young ones around. Maybe you keep saying you want to explore your sexuality more, but the idea of loud buzzing toys feels like a recipe for disaster, what with the risk of waking up a kid or being interrupted mid-moment with a "Mom, what’s that sound?!" when you sneak away into the bathroom for a quickie. The last thing you need is a noisy distraction when you’re trying to connect with your body...
Why Aftercare Makes Having Sex Much More Appealing
As an elder millennial in my 40s, the nicest thing I’ve ever expected after sex was to be handed a tissue box, a cuddle, maybe a “That was nice!” Often, it was more like a shirt off the floor and an “I have to be up early tomorrow…” The minutes and hours after sex were never directly unpleasant, it’s just that I didn’t even know that there was more to want. Especially after years of marriage, a “love you” and a roll over to the wall was pretty par for the course. Then, at 40, I got divorced and was...
Women Share The One Thing About Sex They Wish They Knew Way Sooner
The worst part about sex being so taboo in our society is that it’s hard to find a ton of accurate information on it — and it’s even more difficult when you’re female. As young women, many of us were left to glean what little sex ed information we could from books, the media, classmates, and religion, and not all of this information was correct. In fact, some of it was completely wrong. But real-life experience, wisdom, and a little help from our partners and friends make a world of difference, and by the time we’re older (and often with...
What Does Good Sex Mean To You?
Ariela Basson/Scary Mommy; Midjourney, Getty Images As we get older, our definition of “good sex” definitely changes. When I was in college, I might have thought that good sex was with a really attractive person, or sex after a night of dancing with a stranger, or sex not in the back seat of someone’s crappy car. Now that I’m in my 40s, and have a few long-term relationships in my rearview mirror, good sex means something different: connecting with someone I’ve known for years in a new way, trying out a new fun toy, or sleeping with someone who understands...